At New Birth Family Counseling, couples can embark on a transformative journey to strengthen their relationship and heal from past wounds. New Birth Family Counseling utilizes the Gottman Method to help couples heal from infidelity and trauma. The Gottman Method is unique in its emphasis on not just resolving conflicts or improving communication, but also in building the positive aspects of a relationship. It's based on the belief that healthy relationships are ones where partners are good friends, treat each other with respect, and appreciate each other's influence, while accepting the past trauma and struggles and loving each other through it.
Here are some key aspects of the Gottman Method and how it helps couples heal their relationships:
Building Love Maps: This involves understanding your partner’s world, including their hopes, dreams, and stresses. It helps partners to become intimately familiar with each other's inner emotional worlds, thereby fostering intimacy and connection.
Sharing Fondness and Admiration: This principle is about expressing respect and appreciation for each other. By focusing on the positive aspects of their partner and the relationship, couples can build a culture of admiration and respect.
Turning Towards Instead of Away: This involves responding positively to each other’s bids for attention, affection, and support. It helps strengthen the emotional connection and builds up a "bank account" of positive interactions, which is crucial during times of conflict.
The Positive Perspective: Keeping a positive perspective about your partner and the relationship even during conflicts. This is about maintaining a positive view of your partner and not allowing negativity to overwhelm your thoughts about them or the relationship.
Managing Conflict: The Gottman Method acknowledges that conflict is a natural part of relationships. It focuses on managing conflict rather than trying to eliminate it, teaching couples how to engage in respectful, constructive conflict resolution.
Making Life Dreams Come True: Encouraging couples to understand and support each other's life dreams and aspirations, thereby fostering a sense of shared purpose and meaning in the relationship.
Creating Shared Meaning: This principle focuses on building a sense of shared meaning and purpose through rituals, roles, goals, and symbols that are unique to the couple.
Trust and Commitment: Strengthening the pillars of trust and commitment, which are foundational to any strong relationship.
By nurturing all aspects of self, New Birth Counseling assists couples in achieving a more profound, lasting recovery and a harmonious state of being. This process allows couples to rediscover their strength and resilience, fostering a renewed sense of self and wellbeing.
Couples interested in exploring this holistic path to strengthening their relationship are encouraged to schedule a free 15-minute consultation with New Birth Counseling. This initial consultation can provide an insight into how their unique approach can cater to the specific needs of each couple, guiding them towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
